Hit By a Car the Day Momma Died
Sounds like the title of a bad country song, doesn’t it?
Well, let me tell you a story about my last 45 days:
I got T-boned by a guy who ran a red light, totaling my Acura that I had just made the final payment on.
I hired an expensive coach and paid him a bunch of money upfront, more money than I could afford, then fired him within a month because we weren’t the right fit for each other. Per our contract, I owed and paid a break-up fee on top of the money I had already spent.
I lost a larger corporate client.
I had to cancel an annual fishing trip to Maine with 3 of my dearest friends because of the f#cking virus. Would have been our 15th consecutive year going.
I lost a good friend in a hit and run accident.
On Tuesday of last week, my mom died of cancer.
Around 5:25 pm that same day, I got clipped in the shoulder and arm by the passenger side mirror of a car that was traveling by at 40 mph. It was a hit and run. I was standing on the sidewalk.
Shitty story right? What an unlucky guy.
Now, let me tell you a DIFFERENT story about my last 45 days:
I started running again and have put in almost 80 miles, helping my clothes fit better and my brain be more clear.
I bought a ridiculous car I've always wanted, a BMW M3 hot rod that goes way too fast, is way too loud, and is completely impractical. I paid cash for it and I love it!!!
I got to spend almost every day this spring and summer with my dear mom when I moved my office to her house, one of the silver linings of this f#cking virus. We visited every morning, had lunch together most days, and took walks in the evening until about 3 weeks ago.
My business and my cash flow are better than at any time in the last 5 years.
My course launched less than a month ago and sales are already way above my expectations.
I've begun working with another coach who is helping me think much BIGGER about my business and how to share what I know to a much WIDER audience.
How does that sound? Like I’m on a roll, right?!
Life is complicated. There is always good and bad.
We are all just a collection of our stories.
Stories are how we make sense of the world.
What matters is how you tell your story to yourself.
Are you the victim in your story, or are you the Hero, the one who thrives, despite all odds?
I honor the tough things that I have experienced, including death, loss, and failure.
It would be easy to feel sorry for myself, make excuses of why I can’t go on, to internalize those external events and make them my main story. My story as a victim.
By doing so, I might even attract some attention. Get some pity. Have people cry with me in my losses.
But those losses and failures are only a side line to the story of striving and thriving I tell myself about me.
How you tell your story to yourself, your "Legend", is the most important thing you can control.
If you see yourself as the victim, then nothing will get better because it’s not supposed to.
If you see yourself as the Hero, you will do whatever it takes to get better despite the odds, because that’s who you are. You don’t make excuses.
Every moment of every day you get to pick how you tell your "Legend" to yourself.
What you want to focus your energy on. What things define you.
Wanna get better?
Remind yourself of how far you have come, despite all the odds. Remember the obstacles you have overcome. Think about those things that seemed like they would ruin your life years ago, and look at what has happened to you since.
The Hero of every legend has a guide.
You’re sick and tired of busting your butt for mediocre results, but you don’t know a better way.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
Who is guiding you?
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